There are 3 types of people in this world...

In a not so distant past our elderly were seen as the wisest and most respected people in society. Their reason is that the elderly have been around for a long time and have experienced and learned the most in life. This is true throughout all tribes and goes as far back as any record in history. People had learned from the wise and elderly, giving them the ability to progress and acquire more knowledge, thereby creating the evolution of man.

As we move from the past, we enter into our own times: The present. This is the age of modernization, ultimate wisdom, and knowledge. All the information is at our finger tips. Yet there are but a hand full of people that allow themselves to stand out of the crowd. What makes them different from everyone else?

Let me introduce the 3 types of people in this world: There are people who will not learn no matter what. There are people who learn from their mistakes. And there are those fortunate few who just learn.

Learning is going to be referred to as everything; common knowledge, street smart, book smart etc.

First, I will discuss those that cannot learn. These are the people who continuously make mistakes and never learn from them. Whether it's doing the same cardiovascular machine every day, expecting their body to miraculously "get in shape", or going on many different diets and still ending up looking the same or worse than when they began. Or, someone who gets in trouble with the law and continues doing so even though they know the penalty is not satisfying. The examples are endless and we are quick to point this out in others but are the last to see this in our own selves. Albert Einstein stated that the definition of "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." This is unfortunately the perspective that this first class of individuals suffer.

Now, we get to our second group of people. These individuals have made lots of mistakes in their lives but they have learned from them and in turn, make better decisions because of them. They used to be doing the same cardiovascular machine and following a diet that did not work but they were able to realize it and CHANGE their ways. These individuals kept breaking the law but once they got caught and fined for it, they decided that it's not worth the hassle to repeat the same mistake over. These people learned the hard way but did in fact learn. It may take some people months, years, or even decades, but in the end, they become a wiser individual due to those experiences.

And finally, we reached our third class of individuals; those that simply learn. They learn from their own trials and errors. They have the ability to pick up knowledge from other peoples mistakes, but more importantly, they learn from the experts or the "elderly" of our time. Learning is not a chore to them; it is simply a part of life. These are the people who stand out in society. This is what everyone should want to and be willing to achieve.

Which type of person are you? Figure out what you are and get yourself on the learning curve. Keep making slight changes each day for the better, and soon, you will be a "wise elder" as well.

NRW wishes you success on your journey of self improvement.
For more information contact Yuri at
yuri@absolutefitnj.com

WHO AM I?

This article correlates with my previous article on Happiness. What completes you? Many people take themselves for granted and end up too stressed, malnourished and/or sick. It's great to want to help others, but how can one help another if they can’t help themselves?

I am going to use parents as an example simply to illustrate my point. Parents make many sacrifices for their children. They work in order to put food on the table and keep a roof over their heads. They make time to drive their children to sporting events, music recitals, parties etc. Basically, their entire world revolves around their children. Now, there is nothing wrong with this but how many people can truly be happy living this lifestyle for a long period of time? Unfortunately, based upon the rising rates of divorce, not too many individuals are fond of living that lifestyle. What each person needs to do is become slightly more selfish. Yes, you heard me right: slightly more selfish!

People need to place themselves as number 1 in their life. This means; taking the time out of their busy lives from taking care of everyone else and focusing a little more on taking care of themselves. When asked to describe yourself, how do you answer that question? Most people begin listing hobbies, or their likes and dislikes; I like cooking, I hate cleaning. I love dogs, I hate cats, etc... Now, to truly appreciate yourself, YOU need to figure out who YOU are. In order to do that, you must realize what your core values are. These core values will represent who you truly are. There are many values or needs that each person has, but we will address the three basic ones; physical, mental, and emotional.

Physical values: How much movement or exercise does your body need? What are your dietary needs? Basically anything to do with your body goes under physical values.

Mental values: How much time or rest do you need in order to be mentally focused? What mental challenges do you enjoy? Anything that stimulates your mind falls under this category.

Emotional values: Do you need a great deal of social time? What type of people do you like to be surrounded by? This one is yet the biggest field because anything that springs up emotion goes under here.

Going back to our parent example; many of their needs are not met by simply catering to their children. Therefore, they must figure out what they truly like so that they may be able to balance their personal lifestyles with satisfaction and happiness. If work is making them unhappy, they must find out what job is best suited for them. If they enjoy being around people then being a pencil pusher at the back of the office is not a job for them and vice versa. If they don't like the body image they have, then they must figure out what they like and strive to achieve it. And last but not least, the relationships in their life; Whether it's a business, friendship, lover, husband or a wife relationship they need to be clear about their core values. Right from the start, they will know their compatibility and this will allow them to have long and healthy relationships with others.

Therefore, by continuing to be involved parents and fulfilling the needs of their children, they can still retain self satisfaction simply by adjusting minor details in their lifestyles. Such as; finding a job that takes care of their financial needs and mental needs, gaining physical activity either by cheering and running with the child or helping them warm up for their sporting events, and having a babysitter once in a while so they may go out to social gatherings and take care of their emotional values. NONE of these changes can be made unless the parents find out what they really want out of life. Take action now and become that healthy, happy individual you’ve always wanted to be!


NRW wishes you success on your journey of self improvement.
For more information contact Yuri at
732-705-7233

Happiness

Today, we are going to discuss a simple concept called Happiness. We all frequently use this word, happy; I’m happy today, I'm happy to be alive, or even the classic phrase: happy birthday.

So, what does it mean to be happy?

I would like to ask you a question right now and want you to answer it in all honesty. Take out a piece of paper and right down whatever comes to mind first! The question of the year is: WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY?

Many of you are probably looking at the screen with a puzzled face because you can not figure what truly makes you happy. So here comes the next question: How can you ever be happy if you don't know what makes you happy in the first place? Ahhh, there’s the catch 22; without knowing what you want, you will never achieve it.

Your task is to figure out what makes you happy and go do it.